NATIONAL EX-SPOUSE DAY 
Very few marriages end amicably. Each year on April 14th, National Ex-Spouse Day encourages those who have dissolved their marriage to forgive their former spouse and move beyond any anger or bitterness that may remain. And even those that do aren't free from angst or regrets.
National Ex-Spouse Day
For a wide variety of reasons, sometimes marriages just do not work out. Recent statistics show that the divorce rate for first marriages is at 50 percent. Some people find that they get along better after a divorce than they did during the marriage. Unfortunately, all divorces do not turn out that friendly and the experience can be painful and traumatic. Regardless of whether it is a friendly separation, there needs to be a way to manage the situation when children are involved.
How to Observe National Ex-Spouse Day
- Come to terms with your divorce.
- Forgive your ex so you can move on. It's as much for them as it is for you.
- Find something positive about your ex-spouse that will help ease any lasting bitterness.
- Visit with other divorcees to discuss how they coped with their divorces.
National Ex-Spouse Day History
Reverend Ronald Coleman of Kansas City, Missouri created National Ex-Spouse Day in 1987 as a way to dissolve the bitterness that is often associated with divorce. In its inaugural year, Rev. Coleman offered buttons that read, "I'm OK - You're History," to help lighten the day. He hoped more people would forgive their spouses and focus on the positive aspects of their own lives.
Ex-Spouse FAQ
Q. Is divorce on the rise?
A. Overall, divorce rates are on the decline. However, one segment of
the population is seeing increased divorce rates - Baby Boomers. Called
gray divorce, the divorce rate of those 50 and older more than doubled
since 2015 according to Pew Research.
Q. Is there a better word than "ex" to describe an ex-spouse?
A. There are multiple ways to describe an ex-spouse. A few that illustrate the dissolved relation in a more positive light are:
- Former spouse
- Once-upon-a-time spouse
- Spouse 1.0 (2.0, 3.0 for those who need these options)
- Was-spouse
- wasbund, waswife
- Practice spouse
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Today's Thought
Practice what you know, and it will help to make clear what now you do not know. ~ Rembrandt
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I often refer to "my son's father", or "my husband at the time" in telling stories of experiences, rather than ex-.
ReplyDelete"A rose by any other name..." I feel the same about the term "in-law". I always said, "my husband's mother; my brother's wife" whom ever. Happy Monday! ☺️
DeleteLOL... my dad used to call my grandmother from the distaff side "My first wife's mother". Always raised grandma's dander, since mom was not only his first wife, but also his one and only until the parting time in the wedding vows. That was dad's sense of humor, dry, subtle, accurate but showing his journalistic skill.
DeleteMy kind of humor. He must have been a fun guy.
DeleteMy ex or husband at the time past away from cancer when I was only 44, I realized then that honestly he was always a good dad and a good man, we were just not very good together.
ReplyDeleteThe "not very good together" is a nice tribute. No bashing...just an honest assessment.
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